It's incredibly arousing. I'm 54, my husband is 57. He's bi-passive, impotent, and his only real pleasure is anal. When I insert my hand, at first with stiff resistance, and then I feel his body gradually accept me—it's always a moment of special excitement and passion. He moans, trembles, sometimes jerks off what's left, or simply enjoys every wave of sensation. I'm proud that we've found our path to intimacy, and I see the same courage and trust in you.